We’ve all had those friends – the ones who are always around when they are going through some time of crisis, but who always seem to disappear when you’re in need. It’s time to get rid of them.
Dear Shitty Friend,
I stayed by your side because I felt like it was my obligation-isn’t that what friends who met in second grade do for each other? No one else defended you through the cheating, lying and stealing. But I did. I befriended all of your boyfriends instantly (did I really have much of a choice? They were always around). But when they left you and cursed you and promised to never speak to you again, I never saw them again either – and I became the bad guy, too. But you never told me why – you never even told me that you were cheating. Every single time I found out from someone else and then became the blindsided best friend who had nothing to say. After the first time, you said it would never happen again, and I believed you. I told you that you were being a fucking idiot. You somehow found the best guys in this whole town, and they didn’t deserve it. But then you would do it again , and again, and again. So you would just cry and say that it’s because you’re so messed up. That’s why I stayed – I believed that you were so damaged that you didn’t know any better. I was afraid of what would happen if I left.
Well, I’m sorry of this sounds insensitive, because I do know that you’ve been through a lot…but that isn’t an excuse anymore. I’ve met many other people who have been through awful things, too – and they had their reckless phase just the way you did. But that’s the difference, it was a phase, not a lifestyle. You have to break out of it. I’ve told you this before but you haven’t listened – maybe now that I won’t be around, you will.
You’ve never been there for me and you’ve only ever been a friend when it’s convenient for you. Well, it’s never been convenient to me to have you as a friend, so for now, I’m going to take a break from this damaging relationship and see how you do without me. I really hope you figure it out, because I’d love to be friend again when you do.