I have set my standards high over the past few years about what my aspirations are and who I surround myself with. I had to distance myself from close friends because all they did was bring me down. In some cases I still have no idea what went wrong, but I know it was for the better. Sometimes I think I’m too picky or critical, but it’s my time, my life, and my energy.
I never would have thought that my “best friend,” the one who stuck by me when all my other friendships were dissolving and who I counted on, would exit my life. If I’m being honest with myself, I should’ve known from clues along the way. Other close friends completely de-friended her, my ex told me she wasn’t a good friend and that we shouldn’t go into a business together, and then another one of our friends told me she didn’t want me talking about my happiness because aspects of her life aren’t like that. Say what? In any relationship, you want the best for one another, not the worst. You want to see the other succeed. There are so many small, little things that have made me confused about our friendship as well which I believe are just as meaningful.
Telling my best friend that I no longer wanted a friendship like ours in my life was difficult to say the least, but given how far apart we had grown it wasn’t a surprise.
I don’t think there is ever a great time to end a friendship, but my experience certainly wasn’t the best. After a few days of ignored texts and calls seeking her council, I found out from another friend that her grandfather had died.
No, she wasn’t ignoring me because she was mourning her grandfather. She was instagraming and out with her other friends. We were over; I knew our friendship would never be the same.
Let me say this about letting friendships go. If you feel in your heart it’s the right thing to do, then do it. It is just as tough as breaking up with a boyfriend/girlfriend, if not harder. But in the long run, it will make you realize what you truly want out of a friend and you will know how to recognize a true one. Growing apart from people is what happens throughout life, and if you see that a friendship is failing, don’t be afraid to confront the situation and do what is best for you. Everyone is flawed, but what matters is you and what you deserve, want, and need.