When’s the last time you were in a relationship where both you and your partner agreed on everything? Chances are probably never. But don’t fret, that’s a really good thing.
Having a difference in opinions in a relationship is very healthy. I wouldn’t say to the level of completely disagreeing on everything because then you must not have much or anything in common. At which point that person is probably not right for you.
As I’ve progressed through different levels in my current relationship, I’ve learned that having your own opinions is a great thing (thanks to my lovely bf for letting me divulge a little on our relationship from time to time, after all it’s only to help others). Not only does it create room for interesting conversations but it allows both individuals to have their own individuality; their own mindset.
Let’s face it, if we had the same opinion and agreed on every single thing, would we really be true to ourselves and be true to our partner?
Going back to progressing levels in a relationship, I’ve noticed that living with another person will likely cause you to clash over something. Whether it’s the way you like your home clean every week, or the way you hate dishes being left out, something is bound to be argued over. That’s where you learn to compromise.
Then there is having a child with your partner. If there’s anything I’ve learned from the past few months is that my partner and I have some difference in opinions when it comes to our baby to be. But we’ve learned to talk through these differences and opinions and figure out why and how we can apply them to raising our child. For example, my boyfriend and I have different ideas on how we are going to discipline our baby when it’s older. But we agreed when the time comes that we will try both approaches and whichever works best is the one we will go with. You see, our difference in opinions went from having our own mind-set to then agreeing to try both approaches. That’s how relationships work. There will be times where it’s ok to have your difference in opinions, and times where you’ll need to compromise.
Take religion and politics for example. If you and your partner aren’t extremely political or religious and you both have different views, you’re probably still going to get along just fine. That’s where you can learn a little from each other and even have a healthy debate. That can be entertaining. But if you both are strong in your ways and have different opinions that can negatively affect your relationship.
Bottom line, the next time you find yourself having a different opinion from your significant other, embrace it. The great thing is that you both have your individuality and you think on your own, which makes for a strong relationship.