I never thought I’d be thanking a video game for improving my relationship with my boyfriend, but I totally am.
About a month and a half ago the bf came home with the new PS4VR (PlayStation 4 VR) and we were immediately obsessed. I’ll spare you all from my gushing and the tech review, but I will say if you haven’t checked it out or done a demo – you NEED to. It’s seriously impressive to get a glimpse into where technology is heading.
Among a bunch of racing, shooting and horror games, is this addicting game called Keep Talking and Nobody Explodes. Essentially, the person with the VR headset sees themselves in a room with a bomb and has to describe what they see to the other players – none of which can see it. The other players all have a manual detailing how to diffuse each module and those players communicate the instructions to the player with the headset, who will cut wires and press buttons to diffuse the bomb before the timer runs out and it explodes. Yes, it’s a game about deduction, memory and puzzles, but mostly it’s about communication and trust.
The bf and I got so into this game that we play it just the two of us, each taking turns wearing the headset while the other gives instructions. Sometimes we make mistakes, he’ll tell me the wrong wire to cut or I’ll accidentally press the wrong button and the time runs out and we have to start over. Excusing the minor frustration of small mistakes, both of us knew the other one was trying their best. We learned to really listen to each other and be patient. If I was describing something that didn’t make sense, he asked the right questions and together we’d figure out the right move. More than once he told me to cut the wrong wire, sure that he was right when he wasn’t. I found myself recognizing his tone when he was unsure or when he needed an extra second to figure something out and he did the same with me. There’s nothing you can do but blindly trust your partner when you’re playing this game just the two of you and it’s a great exercise in trust and effective communication. Plus it’s really fun and you get to feel like a FBI agent.
We’ve since beat the game and but use the free play option to diffuse bomb after bomb and I’m excited about how quickly and clearly we can communicate in this high pressure situation. I know that sounds dumb, but when you have a headset on and you’re looking at a bomb in a dingy basement counting down to detonation your heart does start pumping. I for one am glad to have my bf as my partner in the game and in life.