Maxie McCoy… where do I even start? I first met Maxie at Create & Cultivate Atlanta, but I had been following her (read: obsessing over her) online for at least a year before that. Maxie is a powerhouse in every sense of the word. She absolutely radiates joy, excitement and happiness. She is quick to share inspiration, love and friendship. She brings women together and empowers us to be our very best selves. I maintain that signing up for her newsletter was the best thing I have ever done for myself. Essentially, we think she is Superwoman. Ready to be as obsessed as I am? Read on.
You are always full of such radiant passion – how do you recharge your batteries so you can continue to share with us?
You’re so kind! Honestly, this has been a journeyyyyy for me to figure out. I remember talking to one of my best friends on the phone about how I really wanted to get away to Bali for a few weeks but was feeling guilty about stepping away when there was so much work to be cultivating. I’ll never forget her response, “Max, this is your work.”
Those words have really stayed with me when I think about how I recharge, that without it I won’t have as much to give. Which is true for ALL of us. Boundaries are up to us to not only set but to uphold.
In my own life, I recharge by sticking to rituals that ground me. My people in SF all know that if you want to hang out with me on a Saturday morning you’ll have to meet me at the Farmers Market, rain or shine. I try and get to Bali which is like a second home a few times a year to focus on writing, surfing and healing. I’m pretty guarded about my evenings – I try to make sure that I have at least two to be home doing nothing. I’ve found that recharging is in the rituals. The small moments and the big ones that we can always count on to feel new again.
What are four things we can do to get in touch with ourselves and believe in ourselves when we are feeling down?
- Call on your #girlgang – often when we’re feeling like shit we pull back but the energy and connection with someone who really sees and gets us is exactly what we need. So make a facetime call or coffee date with the friend in your life that always puts some pep in your step. Open up to her about how you’re feeling and let her do the rest.
- Think about one thing you did really well recently – we forget how mind-blowing we are when we’re always obsessing over the future. Reflecting is key to moving forward and reminding ourselves we’ve so totally got this.
- Do something kind for yourself– this could be a ten minute neck massage at the nail salon or a long bath and some candles. When you’re feeling crappy, slowing down and feeling all the feels is important. Because you don’t go around feeling down, you go through.
- Monitor your mindset– Our thoughts can be a total bitch. They’re not always on our side. When my mind is running and making me feel like a pile of crap, I try and course correct by repeating a mantra or affirmation that calms me down like “this too shall pass” or “I love and believe in myself.”
We are OBSESSED with your #batshitgrateful tag – please please tell us about what that means to you!
YESSS!! Gratitude is everything to me – on the good days and the bad days it is something we can always come back to as a reminder to how much we have and how full our hearts actually are.
I can be as guilty as anyone of constantly trying to create more, do more, be better. And to me #batshitgrateful is about coming back to everything that’s happening right now. The only moment any of us actually have is the present and if we’re not proud and bananas about that, then success, achievement, joy, happiness, etc etc etc will forever be elusive. It’s about loving, reallyyyyy loving, what we have and where we are and who we’re with right now.
You build a community of women, which we can access through your site, what do you think about when you’re fostering these connections and bringing women to their best creative levels?
Bringing women together and building connections is like breathing to me. I don’t know any other way. In any stage of our journey we all have so much to give, and it’s been one of the great joys in my life getting to build the global communities for Levo and then building my own. Community is about shared truth, diversity of experience and a common commitment to support each other’s rise. And it comes from building deep connections among people. When we can do that in our daily lives, and in the lives of those around us, we all have such a stronger support system to go after our goals.
What is your go-to cocktail?
I’m a wine girl all the way, most days. But take me to my hometown in Texas and there’s not a problem on this planet that a margarita on the rocks with my sister or my mom can’t solve.
Tell us three things we couldn’t find out about you on the internet!
- I never leave the house without Rudraksha on. They’re ancient beads which have been used for centuries in Hinduism and Buddhism for their healing and self-empowerment and healing properties. I only buy mine in Bali from Aum Rudraksha Designs.
- I’m terrified of crowded cities on rainy days. I’m tall, so the average person’s umbrella spokes are RIGHT at my eye level. I literally walk around with my hand in front of my face and wear sunglasses because I’m positive someone is going to poke my eye out.
- I write listening to The Vitamin String Quartet. It’s my jam. I’ve written every major thing ever to their music. I turn it on when I go to write and it’s like instant flow.
What is one piece of advice you wish you had (or maybe did get!) when you were younger?
Be the most of you. Not the least of it. When we’re maturing so many people are telling us so many things to do, be, better. Most of them have incredible intentions (like parents and mentors) and many of them just want you to buy something (commercialism). Only make the changes that allow you to be more of the truest you. Not less of it. When you’re the highest possible expression of yourself, all the right opportunities and people will be drawn onto your path.
We especially loved your recent post on closure (so relatable). How do you muster the bravery to talk so openly about the painful things that plague us all?
I have a rule: I only write and talk about things publicly that I’ve fully recovered, healed from, learned from, and/or moved past. It allows me to share the universal truth into a lesson rather than a therapy session for myself. Sometimes that means writing about something a few weeks later or in the case of the closure post you mentioned, almost three years later 😉
In general though, if we can be vulnerable about our imperfections, we’re able to better relate to the world and people around us. I’m here to be as human as possible.
Who are your role models? Why?
My sincerity role model is Queen Oprah. I literally have a devotional candle with her face on it that I light my prayers up to.
My writing role model is Danielle Laporte. I’m obsessed with her use of language and commitment to following the light.
My thought leader role model is Brene Brown. I ran into her at the Farmers Market in SF once and literally blacked out from fangirl excitement while saying hello to her.
My sage and mentor Tiffany Dufu is a constant source of inspiration and confidence and she believes in me so passionately.
I could go on and on and on. Most of the women I surround myself with are role models. These women are role models not because I want to be them, but because they inspire me to be the very best version of me.
What word encompasses your twenty-something decade?
Girl Gang. Girl F*cking Gang. Which is also just another way of saying community. The rocketship of my career was building connection among women at Levo. And the foundation to my success has been the women that have believed in me every step of the way, even when sometimes I didn’t believe in myself. From the women I’ve never met to the ones I call on the regular…They’ve made introductions, given me pep talks, shared my work, laughed me out of dark days, facetimed me after heartbreaks, led me to my big career breaks…they’ve been everything to me in my twenties and I’ve tried my damnedest to give my love back to them.