I’m writing this from the floor of a college friend’s beach bungalow – surrounded by six of my closest friends from school and some random guy who must have passed out here after the party. This is our second reunion since graduating two years ago.
Each year, more and more friends are changing jobs, moving cities and we’re slowly growing apart whether we mean to or not. While a phone call every now and then and texts day to day help keep friends in touch, there’s really no equivalent to seeing someone in person.
I know it’s hard and often discouraging to organize a group reunion when everyone has a different schedule or may not make a lot of money to travel. So what works for us?
First, we pick a city and a weekend about 3-4 months in the future. The invite goes out to a group of about 10 of us and everyone who can find the time and the money comes; everyone else waits for the next one and joins in via FaceTime schedules the weekend of. It’s too hard to organize everyone, so you have to set an understanding that all reunions won’t work for all friends in the group.
Second, don’t expect to actually do anything in this chosen city. Let’s be honest; you’ll eat, drink, sleep, and not much else. If you try to set an itinerary, you’ll detract from the friend time which is kind of the whole point. If you became friends in college, you likely spent most of your time with these people just sitting on a couch anyway, so why should the reunion look any different?
If there is one lesson from my mom that I’ll keep in mind the rest of my life, it’s that maintaining friendships as you grow older requires effort. You put in what you get out; so go ahead, plan a reunion. Good luck!