Think back to the first time you were ever called a bitch.
Coming up empty? Me too.
At this point I’m going to ballpark the first time at somewhere in middle school. Right about the time that drama between friends, boys and everyone else started.
Remember how it used to sting on impact? When the word hit you? Now it barely even rolls off of my skin when I hear it. I completely and totally dismiss it, because let’s face it … it’s been over used and quite frankly I just can’t bring myself to give a shit when I’m called it anymore. I can occasionally be heard responding with “… yeah? What?”
It’s not that being called a bitch is a pleasant experience – but it’s one that every single lady goes through. Show me someone who hasn’t been called a bitch at least a few times and I will show you someone with selective hearing.
Yes, I am a boss bitch. I have been called the Head Bitch In Charge. But does this make me a 100%, complete and total bitch – I don’t think so – and if you’re in this boat with me it doesn’t make you one either.
So, what have I been called a bitch over? Let’s explore.
- Caring too much.
- Not caring enough.
- Standing up for myself.
- Owning my sexuality.
- Telling someone I won’t have sex with them.
- Telling someone I will have sex with them.
- Telling people to fuck off, when deserved.
- Telling people to fuck off, when not deserved.
- Writing my truths for strangers and friends to read on the internet.
- Spending my money on what I please, when I please.
- Leaving situations I wasn’t happy in.
- Putting myself, my life, and my happiness first.
- Cutting assholes out of my life.
- Not biting my tongue.
- Being completely, authentically, unapologetically myself.
Yowza, that’s a long list – and to be honest, that’s just scratching the surface… like barely. If I were to really sit down and list all of the things I have ever been called a bitch for I would never write another blog post (and would likely develop extreme carpal tunnel) because the list would get so long.
What I’ve come to realize is that people hurtle the word “bitch” as a defense mechanism, or when they’re not comfortable. It makes a lot of people uncomfortable to be in the presence of someone who refuses to water themselves down in order to be more palatable to small-minded people. But I’ve always lived my life at 100 proof, and I have zero plans to stop now.
Go bitch about that.