My best friend and I were inseparable, a dynamic duo of silly sorts. She was the Amy Poehler to my Tina Fey, the Meredith Grey to my Christina Yang. She was #bae before “bae” was fetch. I say “fetch” because we quoted our life in Mean Girls lines. I never worried about my place in her life because it was just there. Whether we were going to In N’ Out or the library, I was riding shot gun. Always.
Today, on my lunch break I decided to casually scroll through my Timehop app. Nooottt the best idea. After a roller coaster of nostalgia, it hit me.
My best friend is gone. The laughter, tears, late-night talks; the memories. The stories we always shouted about sharing to our children and grandchildren during weekend adventures. All of it’s gone. The worst part is, I want to say I know how, but I’m still unsure. How is someone who’s supposed to be in your life forever, suddenly M.I.A.?
Well, the truth about forever is — Forever is a limited term. Everything can’t last forever, otherwise we would never progress. Think about it.
I took into consideration the last 23 years of my life. Friendships, relationships and life chapters. Sooo much has changed. I’m a completely different person than even just one year ago. I began college thinking I wanted to be an anchor on CNN. I’m now a proposal coordinator and writer for a creative ad agency. People change, Even the people we think we know best. Now, someone I used to crack inside jokes with, is the same person I only see through Timehop pictures.
Growing up is weird. And as conditioned as we’ve become to change, the loss of friendships are still an extremely tough reality to face. However, we ultimately have to process it and find a positive perspective.
Things may not be the same with close friends from years past, but still be grateful for the friendship. They were meant to be deeply involved in your life for that specific period of time. Even if it was something as small as having a Target shopping buddy. You developed into the person you are today because of their presence in your life. They introduced you to new music, places and people. They endured Netflix marathons and always encouraged you to take that extra scoop of ice cream.
Those moments and memories can never be removed or stripped of their value. You should still love and support old friends, even if that means from an unexpected distance. It’s never easy to watch something so seemingly strong, slowly unravel. Though, try to view it from a positive angle. Eras end. Connections fade. But at the same time, doors open. New bonds are formed.
She will always be one of my girls. No matter how much we lack communication, I will never doubt that I can call her. And she can always call me too. I’ll always say hi to her family or like those Instagram posts because I’m undeniably happy for her. I miss her daily presence in my life, but I know she’s not gone completely. All I can really do at this point is keep moving forward.
If you can relate to this post, then so should you. We can live our lives mourning “what was” or we can embrace “what is”. There’s a purpose why people enter and exit your world. Right now we might not understand, but someday we will.