This past weekend I packed my tote bag, threw it into the car and blazed down the highway towards Hilton Head Island. If there is anything that I know, it is that spending a long weekend with your friends is the best way to soothe your soul, so I was more than thrilled at the chance to spend a few days with two old friends of mine.
Two old friends. Who are married (to each other). And own a home (it has a pool). And have a boat (not just a kyack). And are expecting their first baby (which they made on purpose).
Okay, so basically what I am telling you is that I set out for a long weekend of third wheeling with my favorite responsible, adulty couple friends. I love them.
Hanging around the two of them reminds me that everything really does work out the way it is supposed to. There is a person for you, there is a career for you, you can do it (I can’t be the only one that sometimes questions this).
There is something so comforting about being in the presence of people that really love each other, not just that sappy movie kind of love, but the real, deep and meaningful kind. They are goofy, they are gentle, they are serious, they don’t have it all together all of the time but you genuinely get the feeling that together they have it all. It’s breathtaking to behold. Okay, I’m being sappy.
All of these warm and fuzzies reminded me that my friends are actually growing up – we all are.
I’m not exactly sure when it happened, when we all started to become adults. It’s like it snuck up on us overnight – even though we are all still tagging each other in posts about finding adultier adults and brunching like it’s our jobs.
It’s not that being an adult means we have it all together all of the time – it simply means that we are moving forward. Be it in our jobs, our relationships, our passions, we are taking steps into the future one day at a time.
Yes, it looks different. For these friends of mine it looks like starting a family. For me it’s writing, working and just trying to find a guy that texts me back. For you it may be grinding at your 9-5 while working nights on your passion project.
Adulting comes in many forms and sizes – it doesn’t have to be scary, it doesn’t have to be hard (although sometimes it is) – it is unique to each of us. Embrace it.