Once upon a time, a boy and a girl loved each other very much and decided to express that love with a passionate love-making session.
…Or they both swiped right on Tinder, met at a local bar, and decided to get it in. Whatever.
Either way, every woman desperately desires to be satisfied during sex. Not only do we want it, we DESERVE it dammit! And sometimes our men – bless them – just can’t get it done on their own. And so, on the eighth day, God invented sex toys (that’s definitely in the Bible somewhere…right?). The benefits of taking our sexual pleasure into our own hands are endless and if you’ve ever been too scared/shy/unsure about trying a sex toy, you have definitely come to the right place.
So, my lovely sex-fiends, what toys should every girl have in her arsenal?
Your trusty, tried and true vibrator. This is, by far, the most common play thing you’ll find at your local sex store. Vibrators come in every size, shape, and color you can imagine. Some require batteries. Some can be plugged into the wall and charged (Tip 1: Get this one). Some are waterproof. (Tip 2: Get this one). I would suggest spending some quality time with your new vibrator friend whenever you get a chance. Learn how it works and what all it can do for you. Haven’t ever brought it out during sex with your partner? Girl. GIRL. Give it a shot. The fact is that only a tiny percentage of women orgasm from penetration alone so using your fingers, or in this case your favorite toy, can be a complete game changer. Plus, you might be surprised at how sexy your partner will find it.
A vibrating cock ring. Ladies, circle up (pun intended). This is one of those things that can weird you out, like hello do I really need a ring around my guy’s penis? The answer to this question is yes, yes you do. Think about this as a hands free vibrator experience. Pillow princesses rejoice at the fact that you can lay back, relax and enjoy it all without lifting a finger (but feel free to lift one if you like).
A glass dildo. Trust. I recently made my first glass purchase and let me tell you, I wish I had done it earlier. There are few things more hot than putting on a show for your partner, but one thing that is hotter is when they can easily join in on the fun. Something unexpectedly amazing about glass toys is the detailing- think ridges, bumps and shape changes. Into temperature play? This is will be your new favorite. Heat it up or cool it down and enjoy.
A starter butt plug. Ever been interested in anal? Do not just go for it, I repeat do not. Make sure that you have lube on hand- the spit trick is a no, let’s all agree to pass on that. I’ve always been of the mindset that if it wasn’t enjoyable people wouldn’t do it – so, with that in mind start yourself off with something small, your butt will thank you. As will your partner when you don’t spontaneously start to cry and/or shriek. Wins all around. Thinking about it on a grander scale? Order yourself a graduated set and work your way up to the real thing.
Under the bed restraints. We can probably all agree that we have had a fantasy in which our partner ties us down and pleases us while we give up our control. But, we may not want to have straps hanging out on our bed for every friend and family member to see when they come to visit (or is that just me?) – good news, these restraints will slip under the bed when you aren’t using them, but can be ready immediately.
A prostate toy. Yeah, yeah men are weird about their butts, not telling anyone anything they don’t already know here. Butt (yes, another pun) with a certain level of trust and an adventurous attitude they just might let you try it – and I bet you $20 that they will like it, just remember to be gentle. Do unto your man’s butt as you would have him do unto yours – to bastardize what was, until now, a very nice phrase. We have probably all read about the pegging trend (read my absolute favorite article on it here by the fabulous Gigi Engle), think of this as pegging’s more approachable cousin, or perhaps the first step towards trying it.
Here at Twenty Something Living, we firmly believe in life, liberty, and the pursuit of a damn good orgasm. Don’t be afraid to try new things in the bedroom, whether you’re with a partner or kickin’ it solo dolo. The great scholar Rihanna once said “Sticks and stones may break my bones but chains and whips excite me!”
Us too, Rih Rih, us too.