“Doing-it”, “the dirty”, “whoopee”…
We come up with all these crazy names for sex, which are completely unnecessary. I get it…we are raised to believe sex is forbidden and taboo, which at a young age it is but we never lose that mentality. Recently, sitting with a group of my closest twenty-something’s we all turned into 10-year girls once the subject of sex reared its ugly head. I’m all for saving yourself for marriage, but realistically only 3% of Americans actually hold out. Yea…3! Luckily, there are sites such as waitingtilmarriage.org for abstinence stats and advice but for the rest of us, we settle for Mr. Ok instead of Mr. Right!
Some of our important questions (i.e. where do babies come from?) are answered in 8th grade sex-ed or by our doctor; but what about the not so important ones?
I don’t know about you but I find myself sweeping all of my quirky questions under the rug for fear of being labeled clueless or other not-so-nice words. Eek! My friends and I like to say we live in a “no judgment” zone so today lets put it all out there, no more “pineapples,” “ear muffs,” or whatever other cutesy names we come up with to avoid the subject.
Here are a few frequently asked Qs.
Can too much masturbation hurt my sex life?
Generally, masturbation is harmless. However, you have to be mindful of your masturbation activities, if you find yourself choosing masturbation over sex with your mate or other hobbies then it could cause a strain on your relationship.
My mate and I want to spice things up, do aphrodisiacs really work?
This is a question that is still debated. There are certain scents and foods that boost your blood flow such as oysters, but nothing has been proven to help perk up the mood 100% of the time.
Can watching or reading porn/erotica boost my sex drive?
Some couples are known to take pleasure in either or, but I recently read that watching/reading can hurt more than help. Some may grow dependent on these “stimulating tools” as opposed to seeking the comfort of your mate.
How often should I visit my doctor?
Once you become active, you should go to a doctor for a check-up. Every 6 months is recommended, but you should go more often than not especially if your partner or level of activity changes.
I’m in a relationship; do I have to have sex often?
If you are in a committed or growing relationship, you and your new beau should be on the same page. Make sure whatever you guys agree on, it’s a healthy balance.
Even though I’m making light of the subject, sex is still a serious matter. I am NOT an expert on the topic; do not be afraid to ask your doctor any questions you may have no matter how odd the question may seem. Remember abstinence is always the #1 way to practice safe sex, but if you choose otherwise always make sure to protect yourself and your partner.