It’s the same story every year – I pick a resolution (usually involving either working out or eating healthy or both) and then about five minutes later I find myself eating a jar of Nutella and hearing the words “fuck it” roll through my brain. That’s the end of that resolution.
Since that kind of behavior is such a waste of time for everyone, this year I have decided on a new approach. Please brace yourself for a novel concept – what if I had a few little resolutions that I was actually capable of keeping? No shame. No games. No self-loathing when and if they don’t happen.
Let’s hear them.
- Practice Gratitude: On whatever schedule suits you. My best friend writes a list five items long every day. I dedicate a yoga class to one a few times a week. It doesn’t have to be structured, in fact you could just take a minute to savor the goodness of a moment when it slaps you in the face.
- Tell Your Important People You Love Them: Tell someone every day. It could be your mom, your sibling, your best friend, your dog… it doesn’t matter. But as we all know, you never know what’s going to happen. Let’s not have regrets.
- Take the Trash Out Before Your Apartment Starts to Stink: I know you keep pushing shit in there, but those Glad bags can only hold so much. Stop being lazy.
- Take A Breath Before Responding: Especially when someone pisses you off. I know how easy it is to just let my fingers tear across the keyboard when I’m pissed off. But, what if instead of flying off the handle I just took a deep breath… what if you did? We can do it.
- Don’t Apologize for Asking for What You Need: If you don’t look out for you, who will? Way too often do we neglect what we need to fulfill what someone else wants. Stop it! This life is yours, and you should live it however you see fit. If it doesn’t feel right, don’t do it. If it makes your soul dance, chase after it. Sorry not sorry.
- Your Laundry is Not Going to Do Itself: Yes, you’re out of clean underwear. Again. No, you may not go buy more. When you get down to your last five clean pairs, do yourself a favor and throw a load in the machine. And then in the dryer. AND THEN FOLD THEM. I know I know, it’s such a process but you can do it. I believe in you.
- Wine is Not a Food Group: Nor is it a therapist. Enough said. Do better.
It’s not a lot. It’s not complicated.
None of these things require an unreliable amount of effort or planning but rather a commitment to being your best self. Let’s be honest – I’ll probably fail at one or two (or all) of these at some point in the next year..and that’s okay. I’m human. We all are. I think traditional resolutions place way too much pressure on us to make big, drastic changes RIGHT NOW and that’s simply not realistic for most of us. I’ll try to make it the gym every once in a while but pizza is #bae and I don’t apologize for that. I can commit to cooking at home once or twice a week but weekly meal prepping? Nah. I can do more to show kindness or gratitude for the people and things in my life but forgiving the ones who’ve hurt me is still on my list of things to do. This year, let’s just resolve to take baby steps in the right direction. We owe ourselves that much. And even if we fail sometimes, we’ll always have Nutella.