If chasing love actually burned calories, I think we would all be a bunch of skinny bitches by now. At one time or another we’ve all made the mistake of going after something or someone that clearly just wasn’t meant to be ours in the first place. In the rare instance you haven’t, then please just humor me and lie and say you have. At the ripe age of 26 years old I’ve finally decided to admit that I have at one point or another been guilty of this very thing. I don’t think we intentionally do it, but it’s one of those things that just sort of happens and you get caught up in the whirlwind and lose your freaking common sense. It’s not even just females anymore, it’s like the entire population is fixed on believing this myth that you have to have someone else in order to be happy, even if that means settling..
You know what you need to be happy? Love for yourself. Chase your dreams, chase adventures, chase a sunset, but don’t you DARE decide to chase someone else. You know what happens when you chase after something that’s not meant to be yours? You end up with a discounted version of what love truly is. We’ve gotten to the point where having someone, even if they’re not meant for us, is better than being alone. We start to compromise on traits or parts of them that we necessarily wouldn’t like in the first place. We think that we can grow to accept the little differences because we can “get used to it”. We compromise our own happiness and then end up in total disbelief when our heart gets broken.
We spend so time chasing after the wrong things that we miss the opportunity for all of the right things to find us. I never wanted to be the girl that settled, I knew I had a purpose and whether it was to be a wife and mom or a career woman I wanted to be open and ready to try every single experience that life had to offer me. I’m not saying to give up hope and become anti-love, I’m actually saying the complete opposite of that. What I want every single person reading this to understand is you have to live your life. You have to make memories and have experiences and find adventures, not sit and dwell on why it didn’t work with someone or what you could have done differently. Don’t chase it. Don’t rush it. When we rush the process, we get something we shouldn’t have in the first place.
Take it from a girl who has been there, who has tried to look past major red flags because I wanted to see the good in people. The only problem was that I wasn’t accepting them for who they truly were, I was trying to force them into being something they were never meant to be in the first place. It wasn’t fair to them and I wasn’t being fair to myself. I’m ready to live life, I’m so ready to go on adventures and be the best mom to my mini me as I possibly can. I threw the running shoes right out of the window along with every expectation of how my life should be at this point. In the words of the ever-so clever Carrie Bradshaw, don’t be the (wo)man who cried love anymore.