There are a million and one amazing things about graduating college or university and moving on to your postgrad life. For example, you are probably working a full-time job so you now have the money to do things you couldn’t afford to do in school, you probably have a lot more free time than you did in school (hello, no homework!), and you are probably at the stage in life where you don’t want to live like a student anymore, so your apartment (hopefully) doesn’t still look like you’ve been housing a small family of squatters for the past 4 years.
However, with all the pros that come with this life transition there are obviously a few cons. And one of the biggest cons that has affected most post-grads I know (including myself), is that you no longer live 5 seconds away from all your friends.
In fact, you might not even live in the same country as some of your friends anymore.
For anyone who went away to college or university, this is a huge change to adapt to and can leave a lot of recent postgrads feeling depressed and bitter that school is over.
I’ve been dealing with this change for about a year now, and I can finally say that I am starting to see a lot of positives in it. And with graduation season upon us, I think it is incredibly important for all recent or soon-to-be post-grads to
read this article find the positives in it too!
The Benefits of Post-Grad Friendships
1. A Little Older, a Little Wiser
For the first time in your life, you now have some actual adult life experience. Living away from home, navigating a potentially new city, and paying for bills, tuition, and your drinking habit, are ‘firsts’ for a lot of college or university students and these experiences force you to grow up.
You’ve learned a lot about real life during those 4 years of school, and you won’t be finishing school as the same person that you were when you started.
This means your needs are different than when you first made friends in school, and you’re at a stage in life where you have enough self-awareness to know what those needs are and find people that meet them.
For example, your need to drink 4 nights a week in school has hopefully become a need to drink
3 nights a week good wine over #lifechats post-grad.
2. Freedom to Choose
While you might have attended a really big school with lots of fish in the sea, there are even more fish in the sea in real life.
In school, a lot of us built a group of friends during first or second year and didn’t stray much from that as we moved on to upper years. So even though you had lots of different people that you could have developed friendships with, a lot of us didn’t explore those options.
In post-grad life, you and your friends are probably not all still living in a 4 bedroom (that should actually be a 6 bedroom) together, which means you don’t have to feel guilty about making new friends and wanting to spend Saturday night with them instead.
You are starting with a clean slate and can be friends with anyone you meet.
And if those new friendships aren’t meeting your needs anymore, you’re now old and wise enough to execute the friendship dump.
3. Quality over Quantity
In school, your top priority was probably hosting the biggest pre-drink before Thirsty Thursday with all the most fun people, and in order do that, you had to have a huge group of friends who were all about that #YOLO life.
In post-grad life, hosting a raging pre-drink sounds like a nightmare and your neighbor across the hall, Connie, would most definitely call the police on you.
Because you don’t need a giant group of friends in post-grad life to fill your parties, you can stop making friends with 100 of the drunkest people you know, and start making friends with 1 or 2 of the nicest people you know.
This might not sound very fun to someone fresh out of school, but from someone who’s been living the real life version of #postgradproblems for a year now, it is incredible refreshing and comforting to know you have friends who will actually take the time to help you work out your problems instead of helping you get blackout as often as possible.
And if you’re still feeling depressed about finishing school and entering the post-grad world, just remember that casual drinking, dinner dates, and Saturday morning hikes provide way better Instagram material than pictures of you doing a keg stand posted at 3AM on a Tuesday.