Around Thanksgiving, it’s hard to always be nice–especially when you’re suddenly spending large swaths of time with people you’re related to. Your friends are in town, there are bars to be conquered, and it’s easy to get overly involved in the trivial nature of things. With all that going on, don’t forget what Thanksgiving is all about (hint: as the name suggests, it means give thanks)
If your life growing up was anything like mine, your parents probably drove you crazy. They sometimes made weird rules, got mad for my room being messy (umm…it was MY room?), and embarrassed me in front of my friends constantly (I think they named the “dad joke” after my dad). However all that aside, looking back on it I really do owe them quite a lot, and it got me thinking, when’s the last time that I actually said, “thanks” just for raising me? Sure I said it when they bought me a gift or did something unexpected, but the day-to-day parenting had a lot to do with how I turned out. I feel like we should make this day about them.
Now that we’re all adult and whatnot, we’re able to look back on past events with a much more objective lens. Think about out the things that your parents have done that probably weren’t so fun. Just a few examples to get the brain firing:
They quite literally kept us living when we couldn’t take care of ourselves.
Food, diapers, side eye. They generally were around for 4 years to make us stop crying. We were helpless little blobs…and probably annoying as shit. I couldn’t do it right now, could you?
They kept us from making really dumb choices.
Whether it was dating someone they knew was wrong for us, walking out in front of a car, or almost going on that spring break with a really questionable group of people. Parents were there for us. It’s amazing how much different things look in hindsight. Yes we all got mad when they told us something that we didn’t want to hear, but ever think, “thank god I didn’t do that?” Thanks padres!
They comforted you when you screwed up.
The first time you got your heart broken, failed your geometry test, or just generally embarrassed yourself in front of a large group of people, you could talk to your parents. Even as much as you hated those big hugs sometimes, they definitely made you feel better…just as long as they weren’t in public.
They chose to make you happy over themselves.
From toys and education to trips and FOOD (seriously, who knew food was so expensive?), your parents have paid a lot to keep you happy and alive all these years. Ever wonder why single people seem to travel a lot more and have nicer things? Oh it’s because they’re not hemorrhaging money on their kids. It takes a lot of selflessness to raise a child, ever thought about that?
They kept up with all the annoying fads, phases, and trends that kids go through.
Whether it was a Furby, a PS2, or Barbie dream house, your parents knew what was cool. That’s not to say you always got the latest and greatest, but your parents at some point caved and bought you something they new to be extraordinarily stupid. Looking back on it, putting up with me begging for 1000 Pokemon cards took a lot of patience from my mom. My dad however, just used it as leverage to make fun of me in front of my friends.
They still offer us really good advice even though they’re probably over the whole “parenting thing.”
From how to negotiate your first car, to what you should do with your S.O., your parents are still going to be there for you when you really need them.
So before you hit the bars with your friends, wake up at the ass-crack of dawn to go shopping on Black Friday, or scream at your sibling for doing something stupid, think about all your parents have done for you over the years. I am sure they will appreciate it. Because think about it, one day you’re going to have kids…would you really want to be treated the way you treated your parents? I am sure you would be demanding a thank you instead of reading about it on a blog.