We all have a variety of different friends: childhood friends, college friends, work friends, neighborhood friends, etc. People come in our lives and they wonder out, and that’s ok. That’s normal in fact. Sometimes we outgrow people, or maybe they outgrow us. There will always be a rotation of people in our lives. If we’re lucky a few will stick around for a lifetime, because you’ll grow together.
I moved across country to California from Florida nearly three years ago and I left behind a lot of friends, some I still stay in contact with, others I only communicate with via Facebook or the like.
Saying goodbye to friends that no longer serve your best interest or help make you a better person, is perfectly acceptable. But how can you say goodbye to someone who was/is such a big part of your life? The answer is simple: it’ll hurt at first, it’ll be hard, but in the end you will both be better off for it. If you’re not benefiting from a friendship, if you’re not able to respect each other or to see each others opinions then the friendship isn’t truly real in the first place.
On the other hand, sometimes it’s hard to see that you’re in a toxic relationship until you find a new group of friends that you realize that friendship doesn’t have to be all about petty fights, gossip, or one sided friendships. You know the type, we all have or had a friend that only likes to talk about themselves, they never ask about your life or show that they care, and they’re negative. I had a friend that I met when I first moved out here and at first I thought she was the nicest person, beside the fact that my husband said she was bad news and selfish. It wasn’t until a year later that I realized the truth for myself. While I cherish and will always remember the experiences we shared, I know I”m better off with out here. I’ve found myself to be much happier and I have found a solid group of friends that care about me for me and who are a positive group of people. It’s refreshing.
So no matter the reason, it’s ok to say goodbye to people, especially if the relationship is not a positive one or one that you have simply outgrown. That’s perfectly acceptable.
Do you have a time in your life where you found yourself having to say goodbye to friends?