Attention: I am NOT a hopeless romantic!
However, all the movies I love end with the guy winning the girl. A few of my favorites are Love Jones, Sex and The City, Pretty Woman, and of course Friends with Benefits with the most amazing, Justin Timberlake. What I love about these movies is they are somewhat realistic. Despite falling madly in love and living happily ever after, each couple has break-ups, fights, and “hook-ups!” Everything else in romantic films is just entertainment. Most girls grow up imagining themselves as Belle in Beauty in the Beast to Anastasia in Fifty Shades of Grey.
Fascinated by romantic comedies, we create the perfect man in our dreams! Nothing wrong with dreaming right? The only problem is we begin to date not realizing that movies are not real. Not saying a man can’t be sweet and thoughtful, but how often is a flash mob in Grand Central Station used to get your attention?
What the movies don’t tell you, is every relationship won’t have a happy ending, every date won’t be a box office hit, and every guy won’t be the perfect gentleman. These misconceptions make you wonder if you’ll ever find your soul mate! If relationships aren’t what we thought they would be then what are we to do? How do we figure out if He’s Just Not That Into You? I’m here to tell you just watching Think Like a Man won’t get you very far. We idealize movie characters and their relationships but they aren’t true #relationshipgoals. Entertainment is created solely for artists to showcase the world through their eyes and to enlighten our imaginations, so of course the relationships in movies seem to be ten times more exciting than in reality.
Relationships are meant to be fun and great experiences with the one person you just can’t live without, but don’t live unrealistically. Whenever there is a disagreement don’t storm off scene or make a dramatic exit as if you can rewind! Instead be willing to communicate, forgive/forget, and compromise. Also, don’t expect every Tom,Dick, and Harry to rent out a private jet just to show you he cares. Relationships are about “give and take,” if a relationship is one sided then it’s not really a relationship. The thing that movies don’t show is the true span of time it takes to build a bond with another person. A year span in a movie is approximately 30 minutes to our 365 days… a lot of growth and communication has to go into something truly meaningful and it does NOT come with a script and preselected cast.
I don’t believe there is anyone out there that really believes they are living in a movie, but I would be lying if I didn’t have a dream or two about my secret admirer rescuing me in Paris. Not just as young twenty-something’s or as women, but as people we tend to forget the journey it takes to fall in love, we just want instant magical moments. The journey is the magical moment! Being with the person you love means a lot more than the glitz and glam of Hollywood. Don’t get caught up in the way the movies show true love, I guarantee you will know it when you feel it!