I’m approaching my 26 birthday.
That’s not a milestone for many but in the past year I have ended a relationship, travelled solo on the other side of the world, embarked on my dream career and started my own business all with my close network of family and friends a mere 10,000 miles away. I’ve come to rely very heavily on myself and when I’ve needed a second opinion I’ve simply trusted my own instincts and acted on them. It’s been a slow process but over time I’ve put less focus on relying on other people to make me happy and more time making myself content. I’ve let go of my old bugbears and insecurities and really started to develop a great relationship with me which is why this year, as a special gift to myself I decided to buy a diamond.
Too often, we spend our twenties chasing a ring. We wait patiently for the perfect gentleman to come along and ‘put a ring on it’ and show us what a beautiful person we are. But can’t we do that ourselves? We let the actions and opinions of others define who we are as a person and sometimes we lose who we are trying to live up to other people’s expectations, when what we actually should be doing is listening to ourselves. Really we should be experiencing the liberation of being comfortable in our own skin – or as Carrie Bradshaw once put it ‘Don’t forget to fall in love with yourself first. ’
I wanted this ring to signify the value I place on who I am as a person. It’s a symbol of my commitment to myself and a promise that I’ll always do the right thing by me, I’ll respect myself and cherish that relationship. It’s also a reminder of the challenges I’ve conquered in the past and a prompt to remind me to be strong in the future. But most of all it’s a symbol that like diamonds, the relationship I have with myself is forever.
When I took my ring home from the store I took it out of the box and spotted something I hadn’t noticed. There, engraved on the inside rim was the word ‘Friendship’. Without even realizing it I had purchased a Friendship ring to celebrate the deep friendship I have with myself. And it’s the most liberating, fufilling and satisfying relationship I’ll ever have.
As I approach the age of 26 I can honestly say I’ve gotten to be pretty comfortable with myself and when I’m lost I turn inwards for guidance. This ring is a gift that celebrates me. It’s a gift that says ‘I’ve come to realise that me, myself and I is the most important thing, and I think we’re in it for the long haul.’