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Today, I decided to ask myself this question, “What is it that makes me less attractive?” The answer is quite complex. It doesn’t matter that I’m pretty, funny, loud, confident, have a kick ass job, or that my energy completely fills a room. It actually comes down to that I am an intelligent person who has every ambition of succeeding in her career first and finding a man second.
Weird that I could be not attractive only because I am too smart, right?
Not necessarily; we as society have come into a day in age where smart is no longer the new “sexy”.
What do I mean by this? I mean guys pretend that they want the smart girl who has a career, but then realize they become engulfed in the fear that they will have to compete and not be the main bread winner. They actually mean that they don’t want the girl who will put their career first, or take a crisis calls at a dinner, or have to skip dates due to work issues. Instead, they pick the girl who is ditzy, reels guys in with showing too much skin, and will be “easy” to win over and to take home. But why is that? Why is it not the girl who can sit there and challenge them and force them to be better?
It comes down to the fact that this notion causes men to feel like they are losing control, and that’s not ok for them. They would rather go for a girl who is ready to just be submissive, refuses to challenge their thoughts, and is willing to cater to every need.
This then brings up the question that in today’s society a woman must dumb herself or just settle in order to be with someone? Or does it mean that if you want both that you’re just going to be lonely for the rest of your life?
I am truly curious as to why guys always claim “smart is sexy” when in fact, it’s turned into a not so attractive quality for them in mates.
Let me know your thoughts.