We’ve all been there- when you’re in a relationship and you have to deal with some third party individual overstepping their boundaries and trying to meddle by trying to make themselves top priority with your significant other. While you trust your partner, how do you deal with this individual?
First, you need to address it with your SO. There’s nothing worse then holding it all in and then lashing out. It will in fact cause a rift between the two of you due to jealously and you not seeing their side. You should be able to sit down and voice your opinions with your man/woman and let them hear your side.
Second, if that doesn’t work, you should figure out how to approach the person overstepping. This is especially important if this person is in both you and your SO lives constantly. Having it constantly eat away at your feelings it will make every interaction painful and not enjoyable AT ALL. While it may be uncomfortable, it will help you feel better. The question is how? Face-to-face is key. Once I tried via text and the girl turned it around on me and made it a whole different ball game. When you’re face-to-face people can’t hide from your true feelings and have to react to it on the spot vs. being able to screenshot their responses to 500 friends for approval.
If this doesn’t work, you may have to have a serious internal gut check with yourself. You have to determine if your SO is willing to work through this or if this is truly a red flag that can’t be fixed. You should also make sure you are not over dramatizing it. Your gut is normally 100% right (seriously it’s scary how on point mine is), but we all know how sometimes us ladies can blow things out of the water.
Remember that you have to have boundaries in your relationship, and it is ok to voice when those boundaries are being crossed or that you are not ok with a situation to your significant other. In order to have a health relationship, you must talk about situations like this that make you uncomfortable.