Ladies and gentlemen,
Since when did honesty become something that is not “in” for relationships or people you’re considering dating? Doesn’t the other half deserve to know the truth?
This revelation sparked for me when I was smacked upside the face with this reality last week.
I was at brunch with one of my gal pals and I came across the topic of “how is that guy you’re talking to?”
Background: she has been talking to this guy for a while now, but he had a ridiculous travel schedule due to work and she wasn’t really ready to jump into something until it calmed down a little since she knew that traveling a lot wouldn’t be beneficial to either of them. However, they continued to talk and made plans to go to dinner when he came back into the city. So he left to travel, again. A few days later, with no word from him at all.
She started to tell me how she was waiting for me to get to brunch and started scrolling through her Facebook feed and stumbled across an interesting post – the guy who had magically stopped responding to her was with another girl on a precious trip in the country for a beer tasting. Red Flag. My friend of course thought it was a mistake. As the week continued, nothing. Which was uncommon since he was known for constantly blowing up her phone. When he made his way back to Atlanta she of course got a text. This time he played the “I want to be a gentleman card” and hit her square in the face with this information that he in fact was in a relationship with girl from the brewery.
Dumbfounded, I discussed the conversation with my all (guys and girl) friends, I realized they all had similar stories. They all had been lead on and into a trap.
So why is it that we can’t be honest and, for lack of words, man up? Is it that we hope to hold on to the person? Or is it that we secretly like the thrill of being “sneaky”?
I think in order to have a successful relationship, you must be honest. As well as in dating. People need to stop being cowards and just BE HONEST.
Let me know your thoughts.