This holiday season may mean more than just stuffing your face with turkey, and waiting in line, trying not to accidentally trip over a stroller during Black Friday sales. For many of you, it’s the first time bringing a significant other back home to meet your family. You may have a hard enough time going home and visiting your staunchly religious or super bigoted extended relatives just by yourself – but adding another person to the pot can be stressful. Here are some helpful tips that will make any introduction run smoothly!
Make sure your S.O. knows the people in your family. Give him or her a cheat sheet with names and how they are related to you. If it’s a smaller gathering, you have an easier job and can go more in-depth, you can mention hobbies, favorite foods and topics to steer clear of (religion and politics – obvi). If it’s a larger gathering, make sure your S.O. knows who are the most important people to you.
Don’t just leave your S.O. to fend for themselves for long periods of time. Yes, there will be some time where the two of you are separated and I hope your other half can function as a normal human and hold an intelligent and witty conversation. However, don’t throw them to the wolves all alone, be their backup and become an easy out when it becomes clear that some family members may be getting a little two clingy vis-a-vis bothering you about the future of your relationship.
Nosy Question Deflection
Have a game plan if you feel like your family might pepper the two of you with questions about whether or not you are going to get married, or why you feel the need to live together right now, or even weird prying questions about your sexy time. Settle on a vague but firm answer like, “we’re really happy with where we are right now, thanks.” It’s short and, when said with a bit of pointedness, will definitely get your point across.
Respect The Rules Of The House
If your S.O. is staying at your house and your parents want you to stay in separate bedrooms that is their call and you should just go along with it. A couple nights in different beds won’t kill you and this is not worth a big blowout that will make everyone uncomfortable.
Relax A Little – You’re On Vacation
Keep in mind that you love your family and they love you. They are going to love who you bring home because you love them (or really, really like them). The whole trip will probably go smoother than you think so try to quiet those voices in your head, and those of your friends, insisiting that a visit like this could make or break your relationship. Everything will be okay, keep it low key and don’t let the pressure get to you.