The Holiday’s are a time of happiness, joy, family, friends, giving thanks, and love? Well I hope it involves love for most of us. I’m the type of person who enjoys being single when I’m single, but if I’ve ever been single during the holidays it gets kind of lonely at times. Now, I’ll be the first one to say that no one should ever depend on another person for love and happiness; all you need is you. BUT, let’s face it, even if you’re the number one happiest single person on this earth, when the holiday’s come around, it can be lonely.
Often we ask ourselves what are we going to do for the holiday’s when our family asks why we don’t have a significant other. Sometimes the easiest answer is to lie. Works almost every time, except for the undeniable misery it causes ourselves. Or we can enlist a friend to come along and play our date for the night. Although that can be awkward sometimes. Or maybe, just maybe you can allow yourself to indulge a little. By indulge I mean, have a little fun with your love life. If you’re not ready for love then go start a fun fling with the guy that makes your toes curl. (Catching my drift?)
When you’re single–and loving it– you might want someone to just spend time with for a day or two then go back to your busy life. Sometimes you want someone to cuddle with, watch a movie with, then end the night in each other’s arms. Basically all the benefits of being in a relationship without actually having to be in one. You can come and go as you please, do your own thing, not answer to anyone and call up that person on the days you feel like having someone around. It’s what I, as a woman, like to call a man friend. More than a friend, less than a boyfriend, no strings attached, but the comfort of knowing you’re exclusive.
If it sounds to good to be true, well it IS that good of a deal. Not just for the other person, but for yourself. Now getting back to the point of this. Having a fling during the Holiday’s is becoming the norm. It’s not a taboo thing of the past anymore, and it doesn’t make you a skank either. It means you’re a busy person or you just enjoy being single and don’t want to commit at the moment. It means you technically don’t have to lie when your family asks you if you have a significant other. Because technically speaking, you kind of, sort of do. However, if you don’t want anyone knowing your business then the best part of all of this is that you are doing something for you. You are doing something that makes you happy, and you don’t have to tell a single person in your life if you choose not to.
We’re adults, are we not? Yes! Which means if you want to have a fling for the Holidays, so that it can be a little less lonelier, then girl, go call up your man friend. Don’t feel embarrassed, shy, or skanky. It’s completely normal, and many others are doing the exact same thing and enjoying it. Being alone during the holiday’s can be a bit of a drag, but it doesn’t have to be. Have your cake and eat it too. Add a little spice to your pumpkin latte. I think you’re catching on by now. Do what makes you happy and go have that fling. Bring them home for the holidays even. Then when it’s all said and done with, look back at the fling as a great thing, and as something that made you feel good and warm for the holiday’s. If you chose to, continue on with the fling after the holiday’s. No one here is saying it ever has to stop, so long as it continues to be a great thing for both people involved. Live your life the way you want to. Afterall, we only get one.