The past couple weeks the bf and I have been making more concrete plans vis-a-vis the rest of our lives together, aka an engagement and wedding and all the stuff you are excited about but are also terrified by at the same time. Nothing is officially official yet, but we did go engagement ring shopping, which was a trip in and of itself. Waving your hand around with a diamond ring on in a store with overhead flourescent lighting while other couples bump into you while also being told that their relationship is the most magical can be surprisingly impersonal.
Some salespeople make you feel like you’re in a car dealership instead of a jewelry store. I was also less than impressed with the salesmen who insisted on talking to the bf without me, even though we are very transparent about our budget, and then left me to wander around alone while they cornered him in a back room to “helpfully explain” that my preferred diamond shape choice (oval) was rare and would therefore, naturally, be more expensive.
For a process that’s been billed as supes romantic, we definitely got the vibe that the diamond industry is in the business of business, not so much making you feel like a special snowflake about to embark on a journey of love. I will say that we had the best experience of all at Baileys so if you’re looking for a place that isn’t going to ramrod you with pompous attitudes and quick sales tricks, go there.
After the initial shock of “damn, look at this gorgeous diamond ring” wore off I have to say that I was simultaneously excited but also feeling super grown up and weird about it. I’ve been so used to scrolling through Facebook and seeing engagement after engagement and I’d be lying if I said that I wasn’t jealous and wanted to be the one coming up with a wedding hashtag. Now that it’s on the horizon for me, I’m getting that weird feeling, like, am I an adult? Isn’t getting married something people who have their lives together do? Do I have my life together? Ummmmmm I didn’t really think so, but I guess that’s how most people feel before a big life change. Before going off to college or moving to LA after graduation I had the same feeling I have now – the feeling that it’s time for this change and I’m going to embrace what comes.