When we think of our twenties it is typical to think the following: it’s the decade in which you explore, have fun, be adventurous, and live your life the way you want to.
The reality is that this way of living in your twenties is for some, but for others, this decade is the time to start the lives that they have always wanted.
Our twenties are a crazy decade, regardless of which route you take. For some it’s the decade of not giving any f*cks. For others it’s the decade to make things happen, work hard to accomplish goals, to have a successful career and set yourself up for life in the future. This is our decade. Our time is now.
Then, at some point, most will choose to settle down and have a family. Some people do it after all their accomplishments and others start in the midst of everything.
This is where I come in. I’m 24 right now, and about one month after my 25th birthday (in November) I’ll be a mom. My boyfriend and I have been together for quite some time, and we decided to take this step in our lives together. It’s both scary and exciting. We’ll both be first time parents and we are so happy and excited.
Since I found out I was pregnant I’ve been asked so many questions, which have included quite a few about my life. Are you happy about it? What about your writing? Are you going to only work part time now? Will you quit your job and be a stay at home mom? What about your goals and dreams?
Questions after questions, and to me these sound ridiculous. We live in a world today where a lot is possible. Including having a baby while also living your life. For me, the fact that I’m having a baby now, is only going to make me work harder to accomplish my goals. It may take longer, it may be harder but it’s only going to make it more worth it.
So when people ask me all these seemingly negative questions I just smile and say it will all work out. Guess what? We live in a world where single moms are going to grad school while they have one or two toddlers, and they accomplish their goals and kick ass while doing so – just look at my fellow TSL writer Kaitlyn Pridgen. So, no my dreams are not going down the drain and no I’m not going to quit my job. I’m going to continue working full time, I’m going to continue writing and working hard to accomplish my goals in this career. And I’m going to raise a baby while doing so. You see, it’s very possible. I’m always going to work hard and accomplish my goals so that I can give myself a great life and therefore give my baby the best life he/she deserves. This is what my boyfriend and I strive to do. We support each other in accomplishing our dreams and we do so to give our little family the best life possible.
Having a baby in your twenties isn’t a bad thing. Not that I ever thought it was. I used to think your twenties were solely about focusing on yourself. But now I have realized that you can still do that while raising a family and that’s more than ok. It’s great–and it’s a great feeling! Enjoy your twenties, and if you plan to have kids during this decade don’t be afraid to. It just might turn out to be one of the best decisions of your life.