We’re always told throughout life to form goals and aspirations, whether they are long-term goals (i.e. I want to be married with kids by the time I’m 30), or short-term goals (i.e. I want to run a 5K in 3 months). Goals are wonderful; having something to work towards in order to be a better person is the reason that so many people are successful. They set goals, stop at nothing to achieve them, and then look back at their lives with a sense of satisfaction. Unfortunately, this is only the case for very few people.
Often times, life interjects in our “grand plan” and throws us completely off course. When we are seniors and looking for jobs, life hands us a lot of “no’s” before we find the right “yes.” When we are in relationships that we feel are right for us, life often says “no” before we find the one that’s completely right for us. We can set our sights on a new city, a new adventure, or a new way of life and be thrown into something unbelievably different than we ever expected.
So many times in life we see failure as something bad. Confusion is bad. Regret and sadness are bad. But they’re not – they’re parts of life. Personally, I was rejected from a few jobs before finding the perfect position for me, where I am now happier than ever. In those moments of rejection, I felt sad and unworthy, not knowing what was next. Because of this rejection, I see things so much clearer and am that much more thankful for the job that I have. So many times, rejection and confusion are things we don’t talk about, but it’s time that we put our fear aside and start talking about both the good and the bad things that happen in our lives.
So, all in all, goals are great. Vague goals, specific goals, long-term and short-term goals. But it’s very important to not get too wrapped up in them, because life may change. And you may change. And then you may find yourself in a place you never expected, and things may pan out so wonderfully in a way that you never expected them to. Nobody ever really knows what they’re doing in life, and anybody who tells you they do is probably lying. You can take steps towards what you want, but you can’t control where the cards fall. All you can do is live in a way that you feel is right, and a way that makes you happy.