This past Monday, my boyfriend and I celebrated our two-year anniversary! As exciting and fun as these past two years have been, like all couples, they didn’t lack the normal relationship bumps. We had our laughs and fun times, but we also had our fights and our tears.
One of the most important things that the past two years have taught me is how to determine if a fight is actually worth it. A lot of arguments and regrettable words can be prevented by taking a moment and reflecting on whether or not a fight is actually worth having. Now, this is actually much easier said then done.
The best way to determine whether or not a fight is worth it is time. Take a moment after he forgot to tell you that he’s going out with the boys tonight instead of eating dinner with you and think about how much this small error in judgement on his part affects your relationship as a whole. In two hours, will you still be just as upset? Tomorrow, will you laugh about this with your girlfriends? Next week, will you bring it up again?
If you answered no to all the latter, then its probably not worth fighting about! Small mistakes that both parties make in a relationship shouldn’t become World War III. Both people in a relationship need to determine the fights that are necessary to have. Most couples look back at some fights and laugh about how stupid they were at the time, but some issues cannot be seen in that same light.
It is important to remember that every fight is not insignificant and should be swept under the rug. There are plenty of issues that couples run into that need to be discussed. If you feel strongly about something or feel as though you are constantly being hurt by the same actions then speak up! Explain what’s upsetting you and what you want to see changed. Your significant other should acknowledge what’s bothering you and work to make a change.
Relationships are all about compromise! We have all heard this time and time again, but it is so true! If you aren’t ready to compromise on all sides then you are going to have a lot more fights and unhappiness in your future.
Overall, the most important thing to remember is that you should be happy in your relationship! Whether that means discussing issues with your significant other or taking a step back and reflecting on your own actions in your relationship, you should never feel anything less than love for that other person. No one said relationships were easy or not without hard work, but they can bring us some of the best things in life!