One day we are head over heels in love with them and the next we want absolutely NOTHING to do with them (that’s just the way it is). In certain situations, some ex’s may mean more than others, or there may just be that one specific ex you can’t seem to get over. I do believe that ex-boyfriends are one of the greatest lessons life will throw at you. Personally speaking, I am so thankful for all of my ex boyfriends and the lessons I have learned from each one of them in my twenty-something years.
“You deserve the world; you deserve respect; you deserve happiness.” Sound familiar? We’ve all been told at least one of these lines at one point in our lives while being in a relationship. Let’s face it, being in a relationship is not as easy as it seems, especially as compared to movies. A good relationship requires time, lots of attention and effort, and most importantly trust. In all reality, I don’t think keeping the relationship alive is the hardest part. When two people are attracted and committed to building a better future with each other, the rest should come easily. It is when the two start disagreeing, having pointless arguments, and bringing each other down when you have to stop and think, “Is this what I really want?”
Letting things go is not as easy as the famous Disney character Elsa makes it seem, especially when it’s a special bond shared between two souls. There are some things you will forever hold near and dear to your heart, and letting go may seem impossible. Now with having the courage to let there also comes a small amount of wanting to hold on. You hold on because of the strong feelings you two share, the bond that has been created, or because of the precious moments you two have had. You replay these moments in your head…over and over again. Memories are memories and that does not change your happiness. Letting go is a part of life, you must learn to go with the flow and embrace change as it comes your way. Things are not always going to turn out exactly the way you plan, and that is just the way life goes my darling.
Moving on may seem impossible, but I promise you it isn’t. Don’t you dare settle for less than you know you deserve, and don’t you dare leave your happiness in the hands of another. Falling in love with yourself first is key to creating a life you love. Moving on will make you stronger and as you get older you’ll realize that some of your greatest decisions were the hardest ones to figure out, but the ones you learned from the most.