Recent events in my life have caused me to rethink my definition of “game” when it comes to the opposite sex. We are at a point in our lives where the definition of game has changed. Gone are the days when having game meant you had some smooth lines, a hint of arrogance and beer in your hand. While those things still play a part in having game, piquing each others’ interests, game has a much deeper meaning as we move through this phase of our lives.
Real game is knowing who you are, what you want, and where you want to go. You should be confident in who you are. Having real game is knowing what you stand for and having the ability to say “no” to things with which you disagree. That takes real confidence. I understand we may not have everything figured out at this point, and we aren’t supposed to, but we should have a general idea of where we want to go in life and be working towards that goal.
When I see a girl that is wearing an incredibly short and low cut dress, it’s easy to tell what her intentions are. There is a difference between sexy and slutty. When I hear a guy spit a bunch of smooth, bullshit lines to a girl, it’s hard to believe that anyone couldn’t see right through it. These are examples of people being fake. “Game” is not game.
It’s funny to me to see guys and girls go after the same types of people as they did in college and think things are going to be different. Then they complain that the guy was a douchebag or the girl was a bitch when they really shouldn’t be surprised. They’ll complain that they can’t find a good guy or a good girl. That it’s “impossible.” When in reality, they just aren’t looking for the right kinds of people.
Maybe people should start looking at the guy or girl they friend-zoned. Maybe it’s the guy at the bar who may not look like Bradley Cooper, but who has a job and good values. Maybe it’s not the girl who will sleep with you on the first date. Maybe it’s the one who makes you work for it. Maybe it’s the person you deemed “too nice” to date. (By the way, that’s not a thing)
Real game is being a gentleman or a lady at all times. While we should still be having fun, we do need to grow up a bit post college. This is the real world. The guy who never wears a shirt, or the girl who always wears the shortest dresses, doesn’t look so attractive out here in the real world. While he or she may have “game,” it’s fake. It’s the easy way out. The game I’m talking about is much more complex than a smooth pick up line. The game I’m talking about encompasses your life and lifestyle.
Real game is having a job or some kind of post graduate plan. Real game is holding true to your faith and yourself. Real game is hard to define because it’s complex. It’s not as simple as being the life of the party. It’s so much more.