I’ve just recently moved into a wonderful new townhouse with the bf and am naturally in full Pinterest, decorating, HGTV heaven right now. This is the first place that we’ve gotten together (he moved into my place in LA) so I want the house to feel like “ours” instead of just mine.
The problem comes in when shopping for things, clearly I try to keep a manlier (read: not pink) aesthetic in mind, but I tend to be drawn towards the things I like – aka white and teal and gold and Kate Spade.
How do you deal when the things you like aren’t the things he likes, or even cares about?
Luckily he doesn’t seem to be too attached to a particular style or look so I pretty much have carte blanche to pick out whatever I want (read: our new bedding) but I don’t want to feel like I’m steamrolling and making these decisions all on my own.
I feel like now I’ve discovered the ultimate relationship secret of picking out my favorite item (kitchen towel, throw pillow, decorations for the mantle) and saying the magic words, “I like this one, what do you think?” with no other options… and it always seems to go my way.
Is this how everyone else is doing decor? Is this wrong? Also, do guys even freaking care what color towels go in the guest bathroom? I feel like no, they don’t – whereas I really do, so clearly I should just get what I want. Now don’t get me wrong, the bf was extremely excited to set up a new television stand and speakers and surround sound and a subwoofer and all that jazz downstairs so that was his big project. I trusted him to pick out something good for the space and it all looks great down there. Knowing going in that was the one area he cared about really helped keep the decor bickering to a minimum (read: zero).
All in all, I’ve learned that once again our old friend communication is key. When I ask the boy’s opinion he gives it to me, but we talk about what choices matter to him more and what matters to me more and are able to find a happy medium that way. I’d suggest if you’re frustrated about your man’s lack of interest in your home, have him pick an area he’s excited about or the place in the house he uses the most to redo or jazz up. Men aren’t encouraged to find their own personal style and throw together things from different stores to make a picture perfect Instagram like we are. Give him a chance and he may surprise you! Otherwise, stick with the status quo and keep decorating how you want – chances are he won’t mind one bit.