Like. Love. Hook up. One night stand. Fuck buddy. Soul mate. How’s a girl supposed to know which is which and what to do with them?
This year I am determined to better navigate the world of f*cking, the world of dating, and the world of love. Since I clearly cannot be trusted to give anyone love advice, especially myself, I decided to crowd source inspiration from the most relationship savvy people around me. What did they have to say? Listen up, we all need this.
If you’re single….
Fuck dating apps and go strut your stuff somewhere until some dude has the balls to approach you. Hard to find, but worth it.
Don’t fuck your best friend.
Learn to be confident and independent. A significant other will never fill the void.
Go for the dream guy, even if only for the weekend.
If you’re in a relationship….
Dating is not training, it’s investing. You aren’t training a dog, you’re growing a relationship.
It’s not all about looks. While yes, being attractive to your partner is important, you need to be able to love them for their personality. At 50 you need someone who understands and loves you for you, not your silver hair.
Life is made of the mundane moments, which can sometimes turn into the most fun dates.
Don’t nit pick. Pick your battles.
Make sure to focus on your individual goals, while working on your goals as a couple.
Nobody has their shit together. It’s just to what level they don’t have their shit together.
Seeing an ex may make things worse instead of better.
Career and relationship can coexist. You can have it all.
If you want kids and he doesn’t, end it now.
Don’t be afraid to call someone on the phone and make plans instead of texting.
If you want to have sex with him, have sex with him. If you don’t want feelings leave your emotions at the door & know yourself well enough to know if you’ll have feelings.
If the guy makes you feel bad for being who you are then fuck ’em… like don’t sleep with them, forget them.
Your mom was right in all dating advice she gave you but you thought was awkward and changed the subject without listening…pretty much like her advice for every aspect of your life (thanks mom).
You can’t change him. You can sit there, you can focus on someone else, you can write more about it. You can do whatever you choose, but you can’t change him.