Often gorgeous and totally mysterious, every twenty-something has to date a musician at some point. It’s like a rite of passage. But we all know that musicians can be temperamental, and their way of life isn’t exactly conducive to a stable relationship. Considering life as a roadie for your musical amor? Read our pros and cons first:
- Like most artists, musicians are incredibly passionate in all aspects of life, not just their songwriting or guitar playing or what have you. If they love you, they’ll do it with all of their heart. Just make sure you’re prepared for the intensity!
- On the materialistic side, there are the perks of free tickets and backstage passes. Even if their band hasn’t made it big yet, chances are they probably have a lot of musical friends that are getting there. You’ll always have a gig to go to every night of the week.
- Musicians take their inspiration from everywhere, and if you’re a big part of their life, that probably means they’re looking at you too. Who doesn’t dream of having a song written about them or being serenaded in the bedroom?
- Musicians are pretty resourceful and multi-talented – they know how to sell their music and they can probably play more than one instrument, write, produce and do the whole shebang! This can translate into every day things, like smooth talking the hostess for the best table at a restaurant or coming up with a new song while doing the housework.
- Musicians know better than anyone what it’s like to struggle and be rejected, so they’re usually incredibly supportive towards others. Even if you’re not musically minded, they’ll encourage you to go out and get what you want. You’re that power couple now.
- Like most performers, musicians spend all day trying to entertain other people. When they get home, they’re more likely to want to chill, not sing to you in your own private living room concert.
- Musicians are well known for being impulsive. Most creative types are quite scatty and unreliable, especially if they see an opportunity that they don’t think they can miss. Get ready to be ditched for last minute gigs, here or abroad.
- There’s no point dating a musician if you don’t like music. You’ll have to get used to plenty of singing and humming and tapping out tunes with their feet and/or the cutlery in the kitchen. They’ll even do it when you’re out for dinner and you’ll just have to swallow the embarrassment.
- Musicians can be away for long periods of time. Even if they’re not a big time band, there are year round opportunities to play at festivals and small shows in Europe, and every musician will jump on the chance to make money and get their name out there, even if it means leaving you behind.
- Finally, you have to consider the possibility that your other half isn’t actually that good at what they do. Not everyone is cut out to be a musician, and if their music, well, sucks, then you have to ask yourself if you can be as supportive as they need you to be!