“Good guys always finish last.”
As women, we would like to say this phrase isn’t true, but who are we kidding? Subconsciously, we go after the tatted-up bad boy that we can’t take home. Women want a bit of adventure and risk to give us a break from the mundane tasks of day-to-day life. Dating the mysterious bad boy gives us an element of surprise that we secretly love. When I say surprise, I literally mean surprise…not knowing when he will call, but getting supper giddy like a little girl when his name pops-up on the caller id, or randomly seeing Mr. Wrong out on another date yet still impatiently waiting on his text. The fact that we subject ourselves to the douche bags of the world is quite insane, but we still seem to leave the good guys waiting around in the friend zone. I’m here to advocate for the guy right under your nose!
There are all types of “good” guys: the hopeless romantic (identical to your celebrity crush in your favorite chick flick), the best friend (the neighbor that knows your deepest secrets plus your favorite snacks), and my favorite, the momma’s boy (the nobleman that doesn’t mind your mood swings). While I’m a fan of the momma’s boy because most of the guys I have dated fall into this category, I admit it has its pros and cons.
Let’s start with the good…momma’s boys are the perfect gentleman! What else can you expect? Beautiful women raised them! These guys have manners and tend to be quite neat. They don’t mind being patient with you when you aren’t being your most reasonable self. The momma’s boy will go out of his way to make sure you are happy, he will listen and try to comprehend how you feel after a long day. I’ve heard if you ever want to know how a man will treat you, watch how he treats his mother. I don’t know about you, but I enjoy daily phone calls and the occasional opening of my car door!
Sounds like a match made in heaven? Sorry, there is one downfall; momma’s boys are coined momma’s boys for a reason. Mom of course is his number one lady. Initially, you may wonder why he shares his good news with his mom first or why her birthday gift is bigger than yours, but come on, she did birth the kid! When you get to this point (believe me, you will) communication is key. Just pull your beau to the side and let him know how you feel, be considerate though, you don’t want to seem negative about the most important person in his life.
Don’t revert to the bad boy just yet; the ugly truth is the momma’s boy is not a pushover. No one likes a pushover, right? The fact that we can’t step all over the wild guy is apart of his sex appeal. Well, our beloved momma’s boy will go above and beyond for you, but do not take his kindness for a weakness, his mother’s love will make up for yours if you push him too far!
The one for you is up to you, but it’s just a matter of stepping out of your comfort zone and testing the waters. Take the guy from the coffee shop up on his standing offer and at least go out on one date, you may be pleasantly surprised at the outcome. I’ll be waiting for my wedding invite!