“Us southern boys are slow with our words, but fast on our feet.”
There are many things that are expected of southern gentleman. A southern gentleman must be polite, witty and charming just to start. A jack of all trades, if you will. Almost every aspect of being a southern gentleman hinges on how you treat other people. Southern gentleman are great not because society holds them to high standards, but because they hold themselves to high standards. To us being anything short of an all around great guy will not do.
Wondering what exactly we are supposed to do? Here are the basics:
- Be a gentleman: This had to be first because it is the most important. Be a gentleman in all aspects of life, not just to the ladies. Be a gentleman to your friends and family. Be a gentleman to everyone you encounter. Do your best in every situation to treat everyone with respect.
- Hold the door for everyone: This doesn’t just apply to holding the door for ladies. If you are a southern gentleman, you should hold the door for everyone. You know those people who are just dying to drop the door and walk away – that isn’t you.
- The southern drawl: There is only one accent I would trade my southern accent for and that is a British accent… maybe. But the more I think about it, I wouldn’t trade it for anything. You can’t be a southern gentleman without the drawl.
- The southern slang: Y’all may be the quintessential word people think of when they think “southern,” but there are a whole host of additional slang words a southern gentleman says including: a mess of, I’m fixin’ to and ain’t.
- Manners: You always have to be polite. Say “yes ma’am” and “yes sir.” Always look people in the eye when you shake their hand. Speak up. Listen. Help other people out whenever you can. Manners are more important than most people realize. Cotillion taught us well.
These are a small portion of everything that is expected of a southern gentleman, but they are a great place to start. There may not be a southern gentleman out there that is everything a southern gentleman is expected to be. I consider myself to be a southern gentleman, but I don’t have all the qualities some may associate with being one. I think if you strive to be everything, but fall a little short, you still end up better than most. Ain’t that right y’all?