For the past 5 years, I have lived with 9, 7, 3, 1, and 3 other women (respectively) as I moved around during and after college. While I love the ladies I’ve had the pleasure of living with, sometimes living with all women can be a headache. Let’s be honest here, we women can be full of drama, dealing with heartache, going through emotional crap, or all on the same cycle, which leads to a somewhat unsettling living environment. I love the fabulous ladies in my life, but sometimes I want my home to be my safe haven from it all, so I’ve decided to try living with a male roommate. I recently moved into a new apartment with my dog, my close guy friend, and his dog. And let me tell you something- it is absolutely amazing. And while the downsides are surely going to come to light the longer we live together, right now I’m fully enjoying the benefits.
1. There’s no passive-aggressive behavior
I’m not the tidiest person in the world, so it usually takes me months to figure out which quirks of mine will irritate my roommates. Not this time. My new male roommate has told me everything point-blank… wring out the rag and drape it over the sink when you’re done…organize the dishwasher this way… only lock the deadbolt and not the doorknob. It’s fabulous. I love that he’s telling me upfront what will drive him crazy so I can stop doing all those things. No passive-aggressive behavior here.
2. There’s very little sugar-coating
That guy you’re interested in? Yeah, you know who it is. When you ask your ladies, no matter how “off” your sensor may be, what will they likely tell you? “Give him a chance, you’ll never know until you try. Oh yeah, he seems to be your type. He may be weird about ___ but maybe that’s just because of ____.” Now ask your male roommate the same question. It’s either going to be “yep, go for it he seems like a decent guy” or “nope he’s awful.” I don’t know why we do this, but women tend to always sugar-coat our opinions about guys for our fellow ladies. I say we should stop doing this, but why change when all you need is a male roommate to tell you the truth.
3. Your clothes won’t get mixed up in the laundry
Ever have a shirt go missing? Or you can’t find your favorite sports bra? Yep, that can’t happen when you’re living with a dude.
4. It’s like having a husband, but you can hook up with whoever you want
We split the bills, the food, taking care of the dogs, grocery shop together, cook together or for each other, and generally just make each other’s lives easier. That sounds like the whole purpose of co-habitation to me, am I right? But the best part is, unlike living with a romantic situation, you can hookup with whoever you want! While I realize a lot of people are looking for a committed relationship living situation, I’m not at a point in my life where I am. So I’m reaping all the benefits of co-habitation, without having to be in a committed relationship. WIN.
As annoying as it is that females feeling unsafe is alive and well, it’s a reality of life. Living with a guy can just make you feel safer. No matter where you live.
6. There’s no drama about who’s hooking up with whom
Going on a date? Hanging out with someone new? Bringing home a new guy? Your ladies would normally ask every gory detail, down to what shoes you wore (which can be fun, but if you want to forget about that not so attractive guy you hooked up with, it loses its charm). A male roommate simply cares how it went and whether you’re into it. That’s all. Very simple. And if you want advice, they can offer it. But unsolicited advice just doesn’t happen. Makes dating simpler.
7. You get to control the decorating
A male roommate more than likely doesn’t care how the place is decorated, which means you have free reign. No more combining all of your roommates’ tastes into the living room. You can now put up whatever you like- with your aesthetic.
8. They can do the “manly” things
While I’m a huge proponent of women fending for themselves in terms of using power tools, killing bugs, and opening jars, sometimes it’s nice to let a guy take care of it for you.
While I realize some of these benefits place men and women into their “typical” gender roles, this isn’t always the case. It just happens to be my case at this moment in time. Do you live with a platonic roommate of the opposite sex? Let us know if you see any other benefits.