As a twenty-something woman, sometimes it seems like I still don’t have a handle on what the opposite sex is thinking. I have a simple solution: ask one of them what the hell they are thinking. Luckily, I have a trusted confidant that will shed some light on just what is bouncing around in the twenty-something male brain:
1. Is it intimidating when a woman is more successful than you? (#GIRLBOSS)
At work or in personal life? At work it’s not intimidating at all; if a woman is your boss, in my experience it’s no different than having a man as your boss. Your boss is your boss. If your significant other is a little more successful than you, you may have a slight twinge of self doubt because you think society expects you to be the more successful one, but when you really think about it you realize it doesn’t matter.
2. Would you like to be approached at a bar, or would you rather do the approaching?
I wouldn’t mind being approached at a bar, only if you come off super aggressive would it be weird, but I’m sure the it’s the same for women. Aggressive to me would be coming up and saying ‘hey, you’re cute. I want to have your babies’ in a very serious tone. If you come up and introduce yourself, that’s totally fine with us, you’ve done the hardest part of our job for us.
3. What are the most attractive qualities a woman can have? Unattractive qualities?
To me, attractive qualities are all about being well balanced. If a woman is confident and self-assured, that’s the most attractive thing. If she looks put together, that’s also attractive. On the other hand, if a woman is sloppy and all over the place and it doesn’t look like anyone is really holding the wheel, that’s unattractive. Some might not mind the sloppyness, but I don’t think they’re looking for anything more than a little fun.
4. What are you thinking about most of the time? Does it bother you when we ask you what you’re thinking?
I would wager, for most guys, we spend the vast majority of our brain power thinking about whatever task is going at hand. If we’re working, we’re working; if we’re cooking, we’re cooking; if we’re driving, we’re driving. In my experience, men aren’t very good multi-taskers, so it’s usually not a mystery what we’re really thinking about, it’s probably just directly what’s in front of us, whether it’s a spreadsheet or a baseball game. I don’t think most guys mind being asked what we’re thinking, just know that the answer is usually going to be a lot more boring and a lot less mysterious than you think it is.
5. Do you notice our love handles / “problem areas” during sex?
No. We are too busy having sex. But seriously, we don’t notice them. If a guy is having sex, he’s won the lottery, love handles are the last thing on his mind. Not to mention, he’s probably worrying about how to make you feel good.
Well there you have it twenty-something women – ask and you shall receive the answers. Go ahead – he doesn’t mind being asked what he’s thinking.