My last relationship (of seven years) was quoted perfectly by Charles Dickens. “It was the best of times, it was the worst of times.” After the final goodbye, I was so content with being by myself. I had never experienced that type of feeling before. I did what I want, when I wanted to. My feelings were no longer controlled by him- I had full control now. I was the happiest I’d ever been, and still am because of the new relationship I am in that completely took me by surprise.
I always believed I would be in a relationship like this one day when I was older. I thought I would go through a lot more heartbreaks before the man of my dreams came along and swept me off my feet. I never expected him to be 13 years older than me too.
My first thought was why does a 33 year old want a serious relationship with a 21 year old, and in the beginning of our relationship I over thought everything. We had a couple of tough conversations about us being together, but it was always honest and sincere. There have never been any “games” or secrets- and I believe that is crucial.
Along with this relationship have come judgements. Telling my family and friends about my new man was difficult at first. I told them that not only is he handsome as hell, but he has amazing qualities that I fell fast for.
He knows who he is and won’t settle
He has explained to me that he knows what he wants and won’t settle right from the start. I genuinely believe him. He’s already been there, done that with past loves. Why would he want that same drama now? Like I said before, he is always honest and sincere with me and himself. I always feel at ease.
With age comes experience
He is open-minded, adventurous, and spontaneous. He has shown me so much already in the past 6 months that I never would’ve done without him. When I’m being indecisive about plans, he knows exactly what to do and I’m never disappointed.
He is established
His confidence and ability to get things done without excuses is a huge turn on. Not only is he focused on his career, he has been 100% focused on me as well. An added bonus is his financial security. He is responsible with his money and plans ahead for his future. It’s nice to be taken care of once in awhile.
Appreciates me, for me
I can truly say that he respects me in every way. I am always flattered by him and he shows me the greatest amount of attention. He is interested in what I have to say and actually thinks I’m funny. Sometimes I think he is too good to be true.
I am lucky this man just appeared out of nowhere. But if you find yourself keep getting burned by the same old type of guys in your age bracket try dating older – you may find the same perks that I have found. Let them show you what you’ve been missing, but most of all, always show yourself the love and respect that you deserve.