1. Honesty / Trust
This is the foundation for any relationship and basically goes without saying. If you can’t trust someone your relationship will crumble. It. Will. Crumble. Have you ever tried being intimate with someone you don’t trust? It doesn’t go very well. Equally as important, you have to give trust to get trust. You have to be honest in a relationship to really get what you want out of it. I’m not talking honesty to the point of being hurtful i.e. that shirt you always wear is stupid, I couldn’t care less about your sports team, etc. but honesty about the basics is the way to go.
No one will know what’s going on inside your head if you don’t say it. Men are not mind readers and neither are we. Imagine how nice it would be to cut out all the passive aggressive comments that are really covering up another issue. If you assume things about people based on looks they give you or minor actions you will generally turn out to be wrong; those things are most likely projections. Just because he took a couple extra minutes to text you back doesn’t mean he decided to break up with you out of the blue.
What is life without humor? There are so many moments throughout the day that are either totally ridiculous that you can laugh at or small frustrations and you need someone that can manage to turn your venting into laughter. Laughter is what keeps us sane and happy in this crazy and sometimes harsh real world.
It’s great when you feel comfortable enough with someone to relax and be yourself, just watch out for becoming too comfortable. You know what I mean – every weekend for the past two months has been spent binge-watching Netflix and ordering pizza while never leaving the couch. Those weekends are totally needed and great every once in a while (okay most of the time) but don’t forget to take yourselves out for date night every now and then. There’s nothing wrong with going out for a nice dinner every once in a while or getting dressed up to go to a matinee movie. Dates don’t have to be expensive – that’s the whole reason picnics were invented.
Don’t invest every single ounce of your time and energy into your relationship. It’s tempting to want to put your whole mind, body and soul into this one person, but that can make your world very small very quickly. Don’t forget to spend time nurturing your other relationships, your friends and family are just as important. Keep your hobbies and some time for yourself – if you get too far down the rabbit hole of a relationship you may start to lose the very personality that attracted your partner to you in the first place.