As confusing and wild and crazy as this decade of our lives is, we sometimes make it harder than it should be. After a good amount of time splashing around in the dating pool, you’d think we have learned a little bit about what’s what. Here are some far too common occurances that you should have left back on the playground in middle school.
1. To Text or Not to Text?
We’re all probably guilty of this one, running back and forth to all our friends whispering “I don’t want to text him first” or “he took an hour to text me back, so how long should I wait before I text him?” When did we all become so afraid of being that girl who texts first or that girl who texts back in a timely manner? Is this really what matters in the grand scheme of a relationship? Does it have any bearing on what actually happens? No. Text someone if you feel like texting them. If you’re not interested don’t text them. That’s pretty much as simple as it gets.
2. Dithering Around
Make a decision about your relationship. Don’t go out on a second date if you didn’t like the first one. Don’t cling onto something that is just okay because you’re afraid nothing else will come along. Yes it will – you are in your twenties. On the same note, if you like someone let it be known! Don’t act aloof and cool because you’re afraid acting interested will make you come across gasp interested. You might just get what you want.
3. Jealousy Games
Flirting with someone’s best friend in order to get them to notice you didn’t work in middle school and it’s even less likely to work now. For the most part, people are done playing games and just want to get to know someone straightforward. Stop shooting from the hip firing off rounds hoping to eventually hit your desired target. You may accidentally hit someone else with Cupid’s arrow and create a complicated situation.
4. Letting Your Friends Do Your Dirty Work
Now is not the time to have your friends talk to guys for you. You will just look like someone with nothing interesting or funny to say – and that’s not you! Get that confidence up and lead the charge when it comes to making new friends.
5. It’s (Not) A Small World
Our worlds aren’t small anymore. This isn’t our small hometown or college major where we know everyone’s name and all their dirty laundry. You are probably hanging out in a new exciting city so get out there and meet some new people! Try to stay away from your typical type if that hasn’t been working out for you very well. Yes, yes, I know there are so many lovely tattooed baristas that write poetry but meeting someone outside that comfort zone could really help you grow, and isn’t that what this decade is all about?