Did you enjoy that picture of me looking into the gorge, aka the metaphorical past? The day I turned twenty nothing felt different; however the twenty-something years would be different than anything before them. They would be filled with experiences both good and bad, old friends, new friends, alcohol, parties, travel, love, heart break, and major life decisions, and it’s hard to believe that has all come in the first half. I find myself always talking about the experiences from this decade in part because of my involvement here, but mostly because everyone I know has lived and learned a lot during this defining decade – and who doesn’t want to share their “wisdom” with others?
What do I wish my twenty-year-old self would have understood? A lot of things, but here are the top twenty as far as I can tell:
Don’t hold on to things that are over, everything has it’s time and place, learn to let go.
Be Present. It’s easy to think ahead or behind, but try to participate fully in the here and now.
Don’t stop working out – it’s much harder to pick up than you would think.
More is not always better. This goes for almost everything.
Learn your limit. For alcohol, and for bullshit.
Be careful with your heart. Don’t just go giving that thing to whomever – it’s breakable.
Be smart with your body. If you want it, do it, just use your brain too.
Don’t drink dinner, at least not often.
Travel. You will never learn more than when you are seeing the world.
Do what makes you happy. This counts for careers too.
Spend time with family. One day you may not be able to.
Take a personal finance class.
Appreciate the right friends. You will lose people, so make sure those who matter know they matter.
Spend time with people that build you up. Some people bring you down, don’t waste precious time on them.
It is okay to not know what you want.
Learn to cook. At least 7 real meals. The more the better.
Love. When it’s right, don’t hold back.
Learn to say no. If you don’t want to, then don’t.
And those are the 20 Things I Would Tell My 20 Year Old Self, and if I’m being honest, things that I wish my twenty-something self would continue to remind herself of. What would you tell yourself?